Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Friday, April 24, 2009
Adolescents
Last night, I was flipping through TV stations and I stopped on Oprah. A counselor was talking an adolescent couple about their decision about whether or not to have sex. This fascinated me. They held hands and talked about how they loved each other. The counselor described the girl's feelings as very strong and how the girl probably thought the two would be in love forever. The counselor talked about the questions the girl would have about the relationship and her body after her first time having sex. Then the counselor then described the boy's feelings of long term being maybe six months to a year. The counselor asked would there be regrets if the relationships didn't last forever like the girl thinks it will? The adolescents were also asked if they knew about safe sex practices like how to use a condom correctly. They unconfidently said they did know how to use a condom. Before the commercial break, the counselor announced that teaching "abstinence only" did not work.
Wow. These poor children have raging hormones and out of control emotions. I felt very sorry for the little girl. She wants to keep her boyfriend because he makes her feel beautiful and important and she feels such a strong feeling of infatuation for him, but I'm sure she is scared of having sex!
I agree that "abstinence only" does not work. It doesn't work if there's no reason to be abstinent other than avoiding STDs and pregnancy. Truly, the only thing that made me very adamant about not having sex was my commitment to God. Furthermore, the two people involved in the relationship both need to be committed to God and abstinence.
Adolescent girls are surrounded by social pressure to have sex. They are deceived by romance movies, TV, magazines, music, and their own peers. I am sad that they are not told about the emotional and spiritual side of sex. The church, especially in my days in the youth group, never talked about the ramifications of sex. I sure didn't want to talk about it with my parents either.
It's interesting to hear people talk about their experience with sex. One of the people I work for said that after she was married, she understood why it would have been better to wait. I also hear Christians talk about how they are absolutely petrified of having sex. What a shame on all sides!
Basically, sex is a wonderful thing. However, it absolutely best enjoyed with someone who has proved his or her love through a life-long commitment. Sex bonds you to your partner in so many ways. It strengthens the commitment and is very satisfying because I have no fear of my partner taking advantage of me.
Wow. These poor children have raging hormones and out of control emotions. I felt very sorry for the little girl. She wants to keep her boyfriend because he makes her feel beautiful and important and she feels such a strong feeling of infatuation for him, but I'm sure she is scared of having sex!
I agree that "abstinence only" does not work. It doesn't work if there's no reason to be abstinent other than avoiding STDs and pregnancy. Truly, the only thing that made me very adamant about not having sex was my commitment to God. Furthermore, the two people involved in the relationship both need to be committed to God and abstinence.
Adolescent girls are surrounded by social pressure to have sex. They are deceived by romance movies, TV, magazines, music, and their own peers. I am sad that they are not told about the emotional and spiritual side of sex. The church, especially in my days in the youth group, never talked about the ramifications of sex. I sure didn't want to talk about it with my parents either.
It's interesting to hear people talk about their experience with sex. One of the people I work for said that after she was married, she understood why it would have been better to wait. I also hear Christians talk about how they are absolutely petrified of having sex. What a shame on all sides!
Basically, sex is a wonderful thing. However, it absolutely best enjoyed with someone who has proved his or her love through a life-long commitment. Sex bonds you to your partner in so many ways. It strengthens the commitment and is very satisfying because I have no fear of my partner taking advantage of me.
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Coffee Warmer
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